The conversation during adult dating – especially on a first date – can sometimes be a bit stilted or forced. This is hardly a surprise. Any first date is between two people who don’t know each other very well (if at all). Even if the two people already know each other, a date is still a new and unfamiliar situation and context. Nerves are natural, but you’ll want to get the conversation started.
You could try these conversation starters:
- What would your desert island discs be?
- What are your Top 3 movies of all time?
- What’s your favorite food? What would your last supper be?
- What’s the best age to be?
- Who do you admire the most in the whole world?
All the above questions could be closed questions, where your date gives their specific answer. This needs to be avoided because you want to keep the conversation going. The questions are designed to determine what sort of things your date is interested in: music, movies, food, role models. The key thing is to allow the person to explain and justify their choices. The focus on the answers to the questions should be not on the ‘what’ but the ‘why.
This is down to the questioner, pushing for more detail and information, not just accepting simple and quick answers. A question such as ‘What’s the best age to be?’ should gets the discussion going to reveal the person’s best memories and outlook of life.
Here are some more great conversation starters to use:
- What would your perfect vacation location be?
- When did you laugh the most?
- What’s the best bit of advice you’ve ever been given?
- What’s your best quality?
- What’s your biggest weakness?
Ask the Right Type of Questions
When you are adult dating, you must ask the right questions. So, what are the right questions to ask? You want to ask questions that allow the person you are on the date to talk about them. When you are dating, it’s really important to remember that it’s not all about you; it’s about the other person.
Nobody likes somebody who seems obsessed with themselves and always talks about what they have done or what they think. This is why it is always good to ask lots of questions. The right questions to ask are the type of questions that allow your date to talk. Don’t ask closed questions which will just elicit a Yes/No response. Instead, ask only open questions. These are the questions that encourage longer and more detailed answers.
Should You Mention Divorce on a First Date?
You may have heard that while you are dating, certain topics should always remain off-limits. When it comes to a first senior date, divorce is one such topic that should be avoided and kept away from the discussion.
Of course, as senior singles brought together in adult dating, both of you may have gone through a divorce. In many ways, it might be a shared experience that both parties can relate to. It could even be an experience that brings you closer together. However, that’s all very well, but it’s one for the future. You don’t want to be spending time when you are just getting to know somebody focusing on the past or on the negative things that have happened to you.
Should You Talk Politics on a First Senior Date?
Another topic that should be left alone, not just on a first date but perhaps on any date, is politics. Politics can be controversial, contentious, and polarizing. This is why it is never a great choice for a conversation while adult dating! Just leave your political opinions at the door.
Should I Talk About My Children?
Naturally; you will want to talk about the people in your life who are the most special. For the vast majority of people, that will be their children. However, a first date isn’t the time to overdo it. Your date might have had a different experience with their children. Indeed, they might not even have children of their own. All in all, children can be mentioned but not discussed in any great detail on a first date.